Find below some pointers on how to behave when addressing a conversation with someone. So far, mostly extracted from the book: How to make
friends and influence people by Dale Carnegie.
Do no criticise, condemn or complain; it makes you look bad. To teach something to someone, punishment for bad behaviour works worse than
reward for good one. Incentivize people. I.E a pilot almost dies because a mechanic used the wrong fuel for the plane. Instead of being
at him, he tells the mechanic to service again the plane for tomorrow, that he is sure that it won't happen again.
People desires to be great and important. Give honest sincere appreciation. It has to be honest otherwise people will notice. Appreciate
and encourage people so that they feel better. Mention his name during the conversation, will make them feel important and will help you
remember it. To make someone like you instantly, tell something nice that you truly like about him, something that you admire, it has to
be honest sincere
Smile when meeting / talking to someone, be grateful.
Focus on what they want and need. Talk in terms of other people interests.
If there is any one secret of success, is getting other people point of view and see things from that persons angle as well as from you
Be an interested, honest, passionate listener.
Do not interrupt if you get an idea when someone else is talking
Encourage others to talk about themselves. Always make the other person feel important
Ask questions that they will enjoy answering. Find out what their passion is and talk and ask questions about it.
A man convinced against his will, is of the same opinion still. Never argue with someone even if you are right, you will make the other
person feel bad. If you are right, then you have nothing to win.
How to address an argument:
Distrust your first reaction and analyse carefully the situation.
Control your tempter, be friendly.
Listen first to the other people's point of view.
Look for areas of agreement.
Be honest look for areas were you thought wrong and accept their point.
Tell them that you will think about the other points.
Thank you opponent for their sincere points and postpone a meeting for another day.
When you win an argument you jurt other peoples feelings. Don't say I am gioing to prove this and that, it seems you are saying you are
smarter than them. Galileo said: You can not teach a man anything, you can help him to find it within himself.
Avoid telling people they are wrong, when listening to someone do not judge as a first reaction, but instead try to understand him and
Accept your mistakes, criticise yourself. If you did something wrong, they are more likely to forget it and forgive you.
Things to avoid:
do not say 'like'
do not apologize for everything
do not eat too quick
do not focus conversations on you
do not talk too loud
do not interrupt people
no nail biting